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Be Yourself. Brand Yourself.

In Master of the Art of Living on May 29, 2012 at 6:12 pm

Johnny Cash wore all black, all the time, so much so that it earned him the nickname “The Man in Black”. According to Mr. Cash in his song Man in Black, “I wear the black for the poor and the beaten down, livin’ in the hopeless, hungry side of town, I wear it for the prisoner who has long paid for his crime, but is there because he’s a victim of the times.”

Other folks through the years, both celebrities and the not-so-famous have chosen certain aspects of appearance in order to brand themselves and use the outer experession of their inner identity to help define who they are.

I’ve struggled with this for years for several reasons. One of them is that I’m extremely self-conscious. I constantly question myself, my appearance, my actions. This might surprise those of you that know me. It’s something that I’ve worked on over the years. My answer to counter it is to really express my inner self in more extreme ways. I’ve grown out a fearsome red beard. I wear superhero shirts. I wear a kilt on occasion.

I saw an article out of Melbourne, Australia about a barista that branded herself by proudly showing her pink hair, piercings, and a full sleeve of tattoos. Now this might turn some people off, but you will too, no matter what you look like. The thing is, she makes a mean cup of coffee. In other words, she’s good at what she does. You can read the article HERE.

I urge you to express who you want to be and brand YOU, not just what you do or who you work for. There are just a couple of caveats though…

  • If you’re entry level or bottom tier in your profession, you may not have the freedom to do what you want.
  • If you’re an employee and not a free agent, you have to do what The Man says to do.
  • And, the most important, you have to be the best at what you do.

If you follow the last one, you can write your own rules about how you dress or look. Lisbeth Salander did just that. Fiction or not, it’s a realistic character that she became.

Journal or Die!

In Master of the Art of Living on May 15, 2012 at 6:07 pm

I’ve always been a big fan of journaling. I have an entire shelf of journals in my office that I’ve completed over the years. A lesson I learned a long time ago that I repeat often is that you’ll seldom find a truly successful person in any field of endeavor that is not a frequent chronicler in his or her journal. Try it.

Journals don’t have to be boring either. My journal is as close to multimedia experience as an analog device can be. There are drawings, stickers, pasted cut-outs, food labels, lots of writing, and just about anything else that I can glue, staple, or tape down. My kids even complete pages in there from time to time with stickers and kid art.

I’d love to go into a huge lesson on journaling, but we each have our own way that stokes our creativity and leads onward to greatness. Instead, I’d like to point you a recent blog by a good friend of mine, the muse of Nonstop Awesomeness, Nathan Agin. It’s how he journals every day.

I hope you enjoy. Here’s the link- A Doorway to Nonstop Awesomeness Journaling.

Are You Worth Your Salary?

In Master of the Art of Living on May 2, 2012 at 6:42 pm

I always love it when the annual salary issue comes out in Parade magazine. It presents a good cross-section of wages and occupations across the country. This year’s issue also revisited people who’ve been profiled in the past.

The revisit also raised a few interesting questions for me.

1.  It’d be interesting to see how the belly dancer increased her income so much in a bad economy. I also find it funny that she makes almost as much as the psychotherapist. Imagine the education differential.

2. Going back to school doesn’t seem like a smart move to me. An increase in money? Nah. Annual increases at her old job would’ve probably left her with a higher salary. And going into a job that’s ending? Pretty stupid. Should’ve kept the old job and been happy with the Masters degree.

3. Very well done on the second career!

4. This one is actually not very well represented. To get a true idea of someone’s income, it should represent all sources. I’d guess that the POTUS’ book royalties eclipsed what he makes as the Prez.

 

5. What the heck is a laughter ambassador? It does pay better than a Pastor’s salary.

6. Hey genius! Maybe consider turning one of these into a fulltime job? At this wage, I have to ask, are you any good at any of these or still just entry level after all these years?

7. Those that can’t, teach. Apparently, it pays better sometimes too.

8.  Sweetie, maybe it’s time to realize that you’re no good at what you’re doing. If you do know how to cook, but you’re a crappy business owner, consider working for someone else.

9. At least someone had a good excuse for making less money. He’s enjoying the Hawaiian life and hanging out on the beach.

 

10. Another great example of those that can’t moving into teaching. A crappy quarterback turned millionaire coach.

 

Pushing Buttons and Providing Opportunities

In Master of the Art of Living on May 2, 2012 at 1:57 am

As most of you know, I’m a huge sci-fi and pop culture nerd. I enjoyed watching the short lived micro-episodes of The Booth at the End on Hulu. It was an interesting show about a mysterious Man played by Xander Berkeley who helps people get their desires if they will do something he asks. It’s how I work with my clients by asking them to do the things that make their passions come alive.

I pulled an interesting set of quotes from one of the episodes that really resonated well with me. These are from season 1, episode 4 titled I Have My Reasons.

 

Client- “She says how you make things happen.”

The Man- “I don’t.”

Client 2- “He doesn’t make things happen.”

The Man- “I provide opportunities.”

Client 2- “It’s like he gives you a button, and you can push it to get what you want.”

 

That’s what I do for my clients…

Present intel.

Provide opportunities.

Push buttons.

Babylon by Bus…a Quote

In Master of the Art of Living on April 20, 2012 at 8:08 pm

In my truck right now I’m listening to the book Babylon by Bus by Ray LeMoine and Jeff Neumann. It seems like a pretty good young angst travel story so far.

I pulled a quote out of it that I thought was very applicable to what I try to help people achieve, or at least work past, in my coaching and counseling.

The author said that “Our stupidity lay not in a lack of knowledge, but rather our application of that knowledge.”

That’s what I like to do, help my clients apply their knowledge, the raw information of their life, and couple that with their uniquities.

How Awesome Are You?

In Master of the Art of Living on April 10, 2012 at 5:52 pm

How awesome are you?

It’s a good question and very relevant, because your awesomeness is a reflection of how you personally see yourself and how others see you.

My friend Nathan Agin runs a website called Nonstop Awesomeness. It’s not even that he’s on an ego trip, because he’s a really humble guy. It’s because he sees his life and what he does as a nonstop trip through awesome-land. It’s like his life is an exercise in pursuing awesomeness around him instead of just becoming awesome. It works though, because myself and others think that both his journey and he are pretty awesome.

Here’s me and Nathan at the 1st ever World Domination Summit in Portland OR…

My wee nephew told his grandma the other day that when he grew up he wanted to be a Ghostbuster, a fireman, and David (that’s Me!). I gotta tell you that it made me feel pretty good to hear that.

But what you need to realize is that he didn’t say he wanted to do what I do. Nor did he pick a particular piece of my life that he wanted to emulate. He picked the whole, as if ‘being David’ is an ideal or a peer into a life of awesomeness. I’m not even around him that much, but when I am, he sees me having fun, playing with my boys, and doing fun and crazy things.

I’ve heard the same thing from adults too, that they wanted to be like me.

It begs the question in your own life…what are you doing…what kind of life are you creating…how do you present to others? Is it a life of awesomeness that others wish to enjoy? Or is it s life that’s more symbolic of dryer lint, something that’s always there that exists to be pushed around or ignored?

Don’t be the dryer lint!

I gotta tell you though, I’m pretty stoked that I even rated at all in a list that includes a Ghostbuster.

Rollin’ with the Palmetto State Roller Girls

In Master of the Art of Living on April 9, 2012 at 8:03 pm

This article was originally published in print in South Carolina Woman magazine…

Official waiver statement- “due to its violent nature, roller derby is inherently dangerous”

Recently I was invited as a journalistic voyeur into a very special fraternity located right here in Myrtle Beach. It’s not a top secret spy group or a cult where you have to kill someone to join. All you need to participate is the willingness to hit, elbow, and bum rush other women while smiling and having fun, skate in circles while passing fallen, moving, and jumping women, and the ability to take a fair amount of pain while enjoying the entire process. I’m talking about the modern resurgence of flat track roller derby action right here in Myrtle Beach.

The Palmetto State Roller Girls (PSRG) recently held their annual boot camp. The event is held to recruit both skaters and volunteers and also introduces new people to the sport. There are some women who try out the sport and don’t want to skate but still enjoy the fraternity and friendships that develop with the team. The PSRG was the first team in South Carolina and they have encouraged a number of other teams to form in the area since their formation. Now, there are teams located in Charleston, Wilmington, Greenville, and other locales in the area where they travel to compete. Due to the resurgence of roller derby fame, more and more women are dusting off their skates and pads and joining up.

It’s not just all for fun, though. The PSRG is formally a non-profit organization. The proceeds from all of their bouts and special events are donated to charities chosen by the team. For anyone who thinks it’s all about taking out aggression and stress on the track, it’s not just that.  It’s amazing how much more happens. There’s the camaraderie, the fitness aspects, the giving to others, and the joy of hearing cheers from a crowd with a mix all the way from rowdy rednecks to families with children. I often take my kids to the matches and they love it. We sit on the front row where the excitement is, where there’s always a chance a flying skater will come plowing into the crowd.

Flat track roller derby is a sociologist’s dream. There’s an amazing variety to be found in the participants. It’s a socioeconomic and occupational mixed bag of tricks. At this year’s boot camp between the newbies and veterans there was a PhD physics professor, a college librarian, a liquor sales representative, a pharmacy technician, a veterinary technician, a registered nurse, a schoolteacher, a barista, and more. In the past, roller derby teams have actually been the subject of college research into the demographic makeup of the teams. One peculiarity that’s been noted is how numerous are the number of academic degrees on the track even though it is not a college sport. There’s also a wide age range as well with a mix from 18 to a number I’m not going to guess because someone might beat me up. I was told by Piranha Mama (Michelle Lewis), the League President, that she was probably the oldest at 48.

Aside from the fresh meat (a term of endearment for new skaters) trying out professional skating for the first time or participating in a reunion with the four-wheeled beasts there are also a number of unique personalities to be found on the track. I had the opportunity to talk a little with the team’s coach Lesley Etherson, better known as Punk Blocker. She’s been skating for 5 and ½ years and has also brought her family into the sport. Her husband, a Coastal Carolina University professor, is also the unofficial-official photographer for the team. The proper reference for a skater’s significant other is ‘Derby Widow’. Then there’s Belinda Schanel, known as Sunday Skool-her, who’s been skating since last year. I love the names the skaters take on. They’re both interesting and often personally applicable to the skater’s personality.

If you’re thinking about trying out the sport or viewing it from the stands I would encourage you to jump right in. At least give it a chance and try it out. Although you can go wild with money if you want, a beginner roller derby package including skates and pads can be found for around $250. You could also shop around for used items and save a few bucks. Plan on a few extra bucks for the unique uniform as well. That’s one of the things I like the most, the sheer creativity among the skater’s clothing. There’s an official team jersey, but the rest is up to the skater. It usually consists of a smattering of weird socks, tights, and hosiery. It’s not just for fashion though. The official boot camp book recommended that skaters “wear tights or pantyhose to avoid rink rash.” Among the needed protective equipment also recommended are a mouth guard, helmet, knee and elbow pads, and wrist guards.

Ten women showed up for the boot camp and over the course of several weeks were subjected to a number of both fun and trying tasks depending on the skill level and fitness of the participants. I dropped in to view several of the practices and was impressed by the skills required to become a team skater. It’s not just rolling around a track. Many of the exercises centered on controlled falling skills and using the pads and not one’s hips, shoulder, and head to break a fall. Many of the practices take place at either the X Sports Center in Myrtle Beach or Fun Warehouse in Surfside Beach. The X owner Robbie Love is a big supporter of the team and not only offers free training space. He also gives each team member free gym access. It’s a great addition to the other unique offerings to be found at The X.

I had a great time watching the team practice. I don’t have any family participating, so I guess that makes me more of a ‘Derby Groupie’ than a ‘Derby Widow’. The next match is March 3 in North Myrtle Beach. Check out the team at palmettostaterollergirls.com to see the schedule. Maybe I’ll see you at a match. Even better, maybe I’ll see one of my readers on the track!

Tired, but In a Good Way

In Master of the Art of Living on February 3, 2012 at 8:14 pm

I’m a little tired as I get ready to enter an overly busy weekend. I’m tired, but in a good way.

Here’s a recap of the past day and a half.

Wake up and make breakfast for my two oldest boys (7 and 4).

Teach a Leadership class to the City of Myrtle Beach (SC) for The Kegler Group, a pretty spiffy consulting/training organization that I freelance for.

Walk to lunch at California Pizza at The Market Common, a super swanky live/work/shop area that I’d kill to live at.

Run by the house to play with the boys. My 3yo wanted me to get him enough rope to tie his brother to a tree. Of course, I happily obliged.

Over to the office to check e-mails and assault a stack of paperwork.

Have a second coaching session with a new client. I love this guy! He’s one of the rare clients that really wants to work hard on doing something better.

Supper and playtime with the kids.

Work on a couple of new contracts for mindmapping.

Watch the first 2 episodes of The Pacific and the last 2 episodes of Birds of Prey with my wife.

Read a little…2 professional journals, 3 golf magazines, and 2 chapters of Storybranding.

Bedtime!

Wake up and make breakfast for my two oldest boys (7 and 4).

Worked a few hours on my dad’s remodeling business.

Lunch at home with my 3 feral boys and wife. She’s not feral, just the boys.

Did a modeling shoot in my kilt with my beard prominently displayed.

Back to the office for a final assault on the pile o’ paperwork.

Write a blog about my…

New Year’s Resolutions (Challenges)- Physicality

In Master of the Art of Living on December 30, 2011 at 3:30 pm

For the past couple of weeks I’ve been doing my analysis of the previous year and making plans for the upcoming one. It’s a habit I’ve picked up from two great folks- Dan Miller and Chris Guillebeau. I always like to put those plans out there for several reasons.

  • Informational. It’s a good place for me to come back to for ideas, to check up, and maybe give someone else an idea or two.
  • Inspirational. It’d be really awesome if a goal or idea I posted became an inspiration for someone else to reach for.
  • Accountability. Once I put this stuff out there on the interwebz, people know. People that know me will ask. I’ll feel obligated to not be lazy about the goals.

Before I show my list, I’d like to give you my POV on New Year’s Resolutions. I like to change my viewpoint by using different terminology and creating a different point of view. I like to drop the ‘resolutions’ word and instead make it a challenge. Here’s why.

Resolution: to determine an action or course of action. To decide to do something.

Challenge: A call to battle, a contest, or a special effort.

A resolution implies inactivity, something on paper but not put into action. A list with no effort. A challenge implies an attack, an action.

I also try to stay away from two other cliched terms like bucket list and annual goals. A Bucket List is too terminal. It reeks of a “prepare to die” philosophy. Annual goals is just too boring a title. Both my Bucket List and Annual Goals list are intermingled now so that both are equally possible to complete in any given year. I put them together to create my Mondo Beyondo list every year. It changes every year also. My priorities and goals change sometimes. As my boys grow older, many of my goals change to accomodate them.

So here’s my list of physical items…

My main physical goals are to prepare me physically for specific athletic endeavors and make me physically harder to kill. I also endeavor to create a more physically active lifestyle without necessarily adding more ‘gym’ time.

The books I’m using here to plan my 1st quarter workouts are Triathlon Training by Eric Harr, 4 Hour Body by Tim Ferriss, and Extreme Alpinism by Mark Twight.

  1. Complete a sprint triathlon (.5 mile swim, 12 mile bike, and a 5K run). Planned for fall 2012.
  2. Engage in serious exercise 6 days a week.
  3. Beat my 5K personal best. I’m not sure what this is, so I’ll have to dig out those running bibs and see.
  4. Bench press 300 pounds for a one rep press. There’s a specific workout in 4 Hour Body for this. I’m going next week to SkyFitness to get my current max.
  5. Play at least 5 rounds of golf under 100.
  6. Help my oldest son Abishai complete his first 5K race. He’s 7. We’re looking at the autism race at Market Common.
  7. Complete an ultramarathon (over 26.2 miles) in spring 2013.
  8. Bring my weight down to 200 pounds or less. I’m currently weighing in at 245. I’d like to be in the Light Heavyweight category.
  9. Compete in a martial arts tournament and rock it Karate Kid style.
  10. Decrease my body fat percentage by 10% in 2012.
  11. Complete a 100 mile ultramarathon in under 24 hours to earn the coveted belt buckle.
  12. Increase my high density cholesterol (HDL, the good stuff) to 40.
  13. Complete an Iron Man Hawaii event (2.4 mile swim, 112 mile bike, 26.2 mile run).
  14. Summit all 50 US state highpoints. 35 to go.
  15. Climb the Seven Summits, all eight of them. 6 left to go.
  16. Thru-hike the Appalachian Trail.
  17. Fight in a Gathering of the Pack with the Dog Brothers.

So that’s it. It’s out there now. Let’s see how many I can cross off in 2012!

My Personal Harajuku- A New Pill for My Fat Body

In Master of the Art of Living on November 18, 2011 at 6:33 pm

I’m trying out a new supplement starting tomorrow. Just got it in the mail today. It’s a thermogenic fat loss supplement.

There’s a lot of fat reducing pills on the market but the vast majority of them are pretty much straight caffeine. I thought I’d try something a little less caffeinated with Advocare’s ThermoPlus. I prefer to get my caffeine from coffee. It tastes a lot better that way. I’ll take some measurements and weigh myself as usual and let you know how the progress goes.

What aout you guys? Any fat supplements you’ve had success with?

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