Another Baby on the Way!

Just in case there are a few people who haven’t heard yet, we have another baby on the way. This being our fifth child, I thought I’d give you a few comparisons and explain a few challenges.

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First off, this is the fifth one, so I thought this movie title seemed applicable to define the pregnancy…

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This is pretty realistic too. Just imagine the swath of destruction five kids will leave in their wake, and the other kids cradling their remaining unbroken toys.

So, right now my wife is around 6 weeks pregnant. That means the baby is the size of a…

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Yes, it probably does seem weird comparing a tiny baby to food, so I thought this one is better and also fits in better with my pop culture nerdness…

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So, that’s the description of our current situation for you. Now for the challenges, in case anyone would like to help…

  1. We need a used church bus to transport all these feral kids around.
  2. Pray that we’ll be able to find a house and land soon. We’re currently living in a 3 bedroom apartment, and one of those bedrooms is an office.
  3. We need a newborn sized car seat and stroller. Otherwise, I’ll have to strap the new one into the luggage rack.
  4. I’m sure I’ll need therapy soon. My wife has chosen to work fulltime, so I run my business from home, homeschool all the kids, and act as the Mr. Mom for this crew.

Be sure to check out my Youtube channel. Me and the kids started filming some of our adventures in the Rollin’ with the Powers’ segments.

This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at www.drdavidpowers.com. Thanks for reading!

How Much Do You Love Your Mom?

I hope all of you remembered your mom on Mother’s Day yesterday. If you didn’t…oops. Sorry, that would be OOPS in all caps.

Here’s what I did for my mom. I’m not showing you you this to prove how awesome I am, even though I’m a way better kid than my sister. That’s right, sis. Threw you under the bus. I’m showing you because part of my gift to my mother is getting her message out there.

A few years ago my mom wrote a book about helping siblings deal with the loss of a brother or sister. Her reason for this book was my young nephew Mason, who passed away after only six days. I helped her publish her book in print and on Kindle back then. What I did for her on Mother’s Day was to pay a friend in Canada to do a reading of the book. Then I made an video version with the reading and all of the artwork.

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If you get a chance, go ahead and watch it. Most of all, if you know someone who lost a brother or sister, please pass on the link. It’s free to watch. If they want a copy of the book, the links are posted below.

This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at www.drdavidpowers.com. Thanks for reading!

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The Baby Robin (Youtube)

The Baby Robin (Kindle)

The Baby Robin (paperback)

Unboxing the January 2016 Cairn Package

The Bible says that where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. By following the calling for our lives, we’re all about adventure, and we need good gear for that. Here’s one of the ways we get it.

If you check into signing up for Cairn as well, feel free to use me as a referral. My e-mail for that is Docbeaker@aol.com. Feel free to contact me there also if you want to add a little adventure to your own life or business.

This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at www.drdavidpowers.com. Thanks for reading!

Becoming Mr. Mom

After 11 years of being a fulltime mom and homeschool teacher for our 4 kids, my wife has gone back to work. She now has a fulltime job at Amazon, and I do my best to provide job security for her by constantly ordering books and other stuff.

Because of this change, there has been a lot of transition in my house. It doesn’t mean for any reason that I’ve quit my own business. What it does mean is that I’m becoming more flexible and less apt to waste time. I now run my own speaking, coaching, and writing business where I help people keep the adventure in their lives and also do fulltime homeschool. Like the Michael Keaton of old, I’ve become Mr. Mom.

I don’t want it to just be that though. As a matter of fact, I kind of dislike the Mr. Mom label. It implies that a guy can’t be a fulltime dad without becoming a woman of sorts or taking over feminine duties. In my opinion, clothes, dishes, and meals are unisex duties.

In light of this change I’m organizing a community online and eventually in larger gatherings called Rugged Dad. It’s only in the beginning stages right now, but plan on seeing big things coming in the future. For now, you can get plugged in by liking our Facebook page. There’s also a button on there to sign up for regular updates on events and advice from myself and other active dads.

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My ultimate goal in all of this is to get more dads active. If you work fulltime, that’s fine, but you also need to be active in your kid’s lives. As I became the parent that took the kids to all their events, athletic practices, and playdates I noticed that I seldom saw other dads at any of them. it didn’t matter if it was morning, afternoon, or evening, the dads just weren’t there. I’m sure most of them could use their jobs as an excuse, but I also know that if something important came up that they wanted to do, they’d figure out a way. It’s just that their kids aren’t the priority. Don’t use money as an excuse either. Believe me, your kids would rather have you around than enjoy watching you drive away every morning in a nice car.

Men- Join me as we create something different, as we create a place where men pushing strollers or sitting on the bench at the playground are just as normal as the moms doing the same.

Ladies- Encourage your men to join me. Help them find ways to become more a part of their kid’s lives instead of just casual bystanders.

This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at www.drdavidpowers.com. Thanks for reading!

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What do I do for a living?

What’s a Mr. Mom?

What’s a Rugged Dad?

Homeschool Tips- The Juppy Baby Walker

I’m a huge proponent of the concept of lifelong learning. I’m 37 years old with six college degrees, and I still take classes, read, and open myself up to knowledge every chance I get. Along with the same thought that you’re never too old to learn, I also believe you’re never too young to learn. After all, isn’t that what parenting is all about? We start teaching our kids from day one how to fend for themselves and gradually work toward independence.

For my wee lads, my three feral boys, as I often refer to them, I’ve always been willing to try new methods or products to teach them everything they need. My youngest boy, who is just shy of 11 months old, recently started making overtures toward bipedal locomotion (walking) about the same time I was asked to review the Juppy Baby Walker. Perfect timing!

The Juppy Baby Walker is a sling-like device that not only helps your baby learn how to walk, but helps the parent as well. I liked that. A lot of products help the kids, but never consider the ease of use or helpfulness for the parent. You basically put the Juppy on your baby, lengthen the slings so that you’re not bending down, and then follow him around as he explores.

Most people teach their kids to walk by walking with them, all hunched over, holding their poor little arms up. This could hurt you or the baby. The Juppy is awesome because it keeps you away from a back injury, helps your child learn to walk faster, and also keeps you from yanking their shoulder or elbow out when they fall. Also, with the Juppy, their hands and arms are free to help balance and learn to walk as they naturally should.

I even filmed a video as part of my personal product testing…

As you can see, my wee lad is doing pretty good on both hard and carpeted surfaces and the transition to and from each. At 10 months old, he’s ready to take off. He had so much fun with it that he would try to dance in it as well as walk. The Juppy worked very well, and I’d highly recommend it as the main method of walking instruction and as a first step in educating your kids the right way with the best product available.

You can check out the Juppy Baby Walker even more at their website and also order direct from them.

Unsolicited Parenting Advice- Helpful or Get Out of My Face?

Originally published as How Dare You! in the Man’s Point of View column in the August edition of South Carolina Woman magazine…

                Parenting advice doesn’t start when you have kids. It starts much earlier, like maybe when you are born. Tired of your screaming as a baby, your parents might have declared, “Wait till you have kids and they keep you up all night.” Or as a teenager sulking over a punishment you didn’t agree with, they might scream out, “Wait till you have kids. You’ll do the same thing.” The advice is always thrown out like some kind of curse.

                As time goes by, you form your own opinions about how you’ll raise your own future children. You might see a family in the mall with a bevy of monster-children and vow that your kids will never act that way. You might even offer your own unsolicited advice. Maybe something like, “You know, a good switch should take care of that.”

                Though unsolicited parenting advice is thrown at you in the pre-parenting stage of your life, it will take a much more serious and darker tone once you bring progeny into the world. It’s much more important now to the people in your life that you raise your kids exactly as they want you to. You’re no longer contemplating mini-me’s. Now you’ve gone and created living breathing miniature human beings that everyone is convinced you’re going to corrupt, injure, or incinerate.

                I’ve done pretty well taking this advice for many years. Much was given. Some was ignored and some accepted. There was the occasional terse exchange or minor problem that was dealt with in one way or another. Recently, though, it seems as if the very sovereignty of parenthood is under attack. There have been several incidents worldwide and in my own life that have drawn armchair parents out in droves and given them voices.

                In June of this year 13-year-old Jordan Romero attempted a summit climb of Mt. Everest. If successful he would set a record as the youngest person to climb the tallest mountain in the world. Before he ever set foot on the mountain, the criticism and advice began in the media. In the end, accompanied by his dad, he stood at 29,035 feet, the top of the world, and called his mom on a satellite phone. His parents not only allowed him to train for and make the climb, but encouraged and enabled his dream. They did this despite all criticism. In an effort to join the pseudo-parenting fray and give heed to advice from the media, China created new regulations that now restricts climbers to a minimum of 18 years of age.

                More recently, 16-year-old Abby Sunderland set sail in an effort to voyage solo around the world. In the middle of the Indian Ocean she encountered storms that broke the mast on her ship and destroyed her communications capability. After several days of searching she was rescued safe and sound. The outcry that began at the inauguration of her voyage only intensified with the latest development. Despite the criticism her parents gave their blessing on the trip and did their best to help with the voyage.

                Recently a family member of mine launched a direct attack on my sovereignty as a parent. The problem this person had with my wife and I was that we took our boys to see a movie that she didn’t approve of. She opened an exchange with us in a very public way by criticizing my decision on Facebook. Then followed an interesting exchange of e-mails that culminated with me making it more than clear that my rights and actions as a parent are none of her business and not open for discussion.

                Now, no one is perfect, especially as a parent. I’ve made more mistakes as a parent than in any other single area in my life. Parenting is a learning experience in which most of our education is by way of mistakes made. Think of it like doctors who practice their profession and are always learning. The thing about parenting is that we don’t need all those mistakes pointed out to us or thrown in our faces. That’s for the actual mistakes. Most unsolicited parenting advice comes about because of perceived mistakes, things you didn’t actually do wrong but that others don’t agree with.

                As a general rule, unsolicited parenting advice is never welcome. Unless parents are doing something recklessly dangerous or detrimental to their kids, there’s no reason for someone else to say anything. The two adventures mentioned, mountain climbing and sailing, are not recklessly dangerous. They were planned calculated choices that parents and children made together.

                If a situation ever occurs in which you feel it necessary to offer unsolicited advice, do it right. Doing it the wrong way, as in my situation, can cause a rift in an otherwise healthy relationship. Offer advice, not criticism. Do it in a loving manner. Don’t overdo it and don’t make demands. It’s a tricky thing, but it can be done right.

In case anyone’s interested, I have two boys. They’re too young to climb Everest or attempt trans-oceanic voyages right now. If they decide to later though, I’ll support them. I’ll help them find the right training. I’ll help them fund their goals. But I will not kill their dreams because someone else thinks their idea of parenting is better than mine.